Saturday, March 13, 2010

Old Habits Die Hard

Well, I swore to myself I'd never do it again. After my last experience, I wanted to get as far away as possible from it. But here I am, back at it again.

I have re-joined (word?) Plenty of Fish. Yes, it's true. No, my doctor didn't switch up my meds. I'm really just that crazy and/or masochistic.

The good news is that within a day of re-joining (I like my new word, it's catchy), I got a message from a guy who is cute, seems to have similar interests and personality, and actually seems normal, which let's be honest is saying something for guys on POF. We are going out tomorrow and I'm excited, like a silly eleventh-grader or something. And we're not just going on any date - he's taking me to the gold medal game of the Brier! That's right, a curling game (are they called games? I don't even know); and not just any game, the big one. His treat. Heck, I was just excited that someone put a little thought into the date and didn't a) leave me to do all the work of planning where to go and when, and b) thought of doing something other than going for coffee or lunch or some other perfectly acceptable yet boring first-date activity.

We shall see. Anyone who knows me knows that I tend to get prematurely excited about things, and in turn end up disappointed when my higher-than-normal expectations are not met. Anyone who knows me would also know that going to a curling game/match/whatever it's called is not the norm for me as well - nothing against curling, I just don't follow sports or watch them. Ever. Again, not that I don't like them but I'm just sort of indifferent. My mind is preoccupied with deeper things like clothes and food.

I'm still asking myself why I'm doing this online dating thing again because it's just never worked for me. And I'd be lying if I said I thought it was really going to work this time either, but what can I say. I guess if nothing else, I'm a persistent person who doesn't let a few bad experiences get me down. I thought to myself the other day too that even if I go on a date and it turns out bad or doesn't go anywhere, at least I took that step. At least I got out there and met someone and took the leap. At least I didn't stay home alone and lay on the couch with a box of cookies talking to the cat and watching dvd's (I mean I've never done that....ok maybe once or twice). And hey if you have a really bad date that's really awkward, at least you have a funny story to tell!

So, bottom line is, I'm back at it and not sure about it, but also happy about it. Make sense?

In any case, it's impossible to be down when it's sunny and 5+ degrees outside (it's sad and a testament to the shittiness of winter that 5 degrees is considered warm)! Plus, I'm getting ready to go out for a walk in Point Pleasant Park (a Halifax treasure), then coffee at the Wired Monk (another HT) then out for dinner (Turkish restaurant - ooo new!) and dancing with some fun gals! All this combined with my exciting date tomorrow, it's shaping up to be quite an awesome weekend.

Now, if you'll excuse me I have to go kick myself.

6 comments:

Carly Findlay said...

Hi there

I really enjoy your blogs - you are a great writer.

Good luck with the online dating caper.

I often re-sign up to the sites, then wonder what I'm doing.
I find the sites like a catalogue - users ALWAYS say they want a partner with good personality, but in the end it comes down to looks.

Some of my strange experiences have been:
- getting dumped in a supermarket - I stalled him coming to my house by asking him to call in to the supermarket to get a pizza, and then he drove off in his combi. Lucky he did because he was weird!
- being asked if I'd be a partner for a guy and his SISTER IN LAW!!

I also met a guy on ICQ many years ago who I fell in love with and he lied to me about his entire life for six years! There were some huge lies in there.

Carly

Kim H said...

Yeah I totally agree. People put all kinds of comments in their profiles that are just crap. Or even worse they write like two words so you don't have any idea what they're like or whether you would hit it off lol. My problem is I always get my hopes up too much, and therefore usually end up disappointed. I'm trying to work on that though. I figure all I can do is get back on the horse!

Thanks for the compliments! You put this stuff out there and sometimes wonder if it's total crap or not, so it's nice to hear that it's not lol

Allison said...

Good for you for trying again. I refuse to online date - I don't know, for me, it's too weird. I know that I talk to strangers on my blog all the time through blogging etc, but I just feel like I can meet someone on my own. I just need courage!

Oh, and if someone invited me to a Brier I would pre-maturely declare him a keeper! Mostly because I love the idea of a unique date. I'd love to be asked out to an art museum. That's my perfect guy.

I work in a coffee shop, so I witness many, many first dates. I saw one yesterday actually, it seemed to be going well. I've also seen them go very, very badly.

Good luck to you!

Allison said...

I opened my local paper today to see the sport's section had featured the Brier and I thought of your date. I hope it went well!

Kim H said...

Yes, it definitely went well, thanks :) And I must say, I actually enjoyed the Brier, even though I had no idea what was happening most of the time lol

Kim H said...

Yes, it definitely went well, thanks :) And I must say, I actually enjoyed the Brier, even though I had no idea what was happening most of the time lol

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